Wow - Well I read your response and cried and cried. You make so much sense and you brought me back to reality.
I think with Dbing you try and try and try. When you feel that there is no progress then you blame the other person. You lose sight of the fact that I put us here.
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I don't think shows that you "get" just what someone cheating on you does to a person.
You have to be right here. Perhaps he sees and feels that as well . How can I feel it , if I don't experience it. I feel I have taken full responsibility. I know I made the choice to have an A and I am and have been so sorry. I have complied with evry single wish of his with respect , getting private numbers, changing the car I used to meet him, allowing H to go through mail, email, text and bank records etc. I constantly ensure he knows absolutely everything about kids, so he does not miss out. I support and advise on business stuff and so on.
What am i not doing here ?
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give him the space he needs and IF he decides to try to make your marriage work, take what you've learned about yourself and what is important to you and use that to have the marriage you BOTH want.
Easiest thing for me to do, would be to pack up everything and lose myself and never have to deal with him. That is how I would love to handle this whole situation. No contact at all like SPM wife sounds like heaven to me. Then i don't have to see his pain or constantly be reminder of my part in the destruction of this family.
It would be like getting off the roller coaster. Putting blinders on, starting fresh.
But that is not the right thing to do for this family.
Funny thing while I was reading both your and SPM posts and tears are flowing my H rings. Was a little business, a little kids and then he said " How are you " Have not heard that in a while.
