Not the easy way out

[Yoyowife]

Hey Didi,
I'm glad you started your new thread. Here are some suggestions you might do. I like the beer idea, how about getting his favorite snack for the game also? Here are some other suggestions, a pretty night gown, a bbq for a few of his friends and their wives, a flirty little text or email during the day, kissing him good bye and hello.

Here is the question I wanted to ask you. First of all how long were you involved with OM? What made you respond to your H? Ultimatums or him GALing? In moments of anger I have given my H ultimatums and they just seemed to backfire on him and make him mad. I think what I gather from you, the best thing for the LBS to do is to be the best person they can be and don't pursue act like you are moving on but don't be rude when you see them. Don't "tell" the WAS they have to get rid of OP, because that will only happen when the WAS is ready.

What made you want to be with your H after your affair?