[/quote]but them I started becoming the old husband that I was, my wife started to withdraw from me and I felt that the reason was that she still had feelings for the old boyfriend, the fights starded the lack of sex, in so many ways back the the olden days. [quote]
Francis,
SG is right you need to decide what you want, your M or OW
You say that you feel W is seeing old BF but do you have proof? You said yourself that you slipped back into your old ways and W withdrew. Could this be why she is doing what she is doing and not OM? If it was the issue before why couldn't it be the issue now. Maybe it is an excuse you are giving yourself because you don't want to give up the OW now.
You really need to think about what you really want.
I am not trying to be mean here but I feel you need to really hear another point of view to give you something to knaw on.
I know how hard it must be to give up the OW since you are probobly on a high with her in your life right now but, Two wrongs do not make a right and you are still married.
Just my Two cents worth.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
