I found these boards to be incredibly helpful when I was dealing with the pain of separation last year, now that I am divorced, I believe that I will also find some really good advice in this forum. One thing is certain, the DB community is a group of wonderfully supporting people.
My divorce was final about 2 months ago on 8/18/2008. Ex and I have been separated 1 year. We tried reconciling in March and it was a disaster, the damage was done.
Soon after the failed reconciliation, I started dating my wife's very good friend. We spent a weekend in Las Vegas and I started crashing at her place about 4 - 5 nights per week. During this time I had very little contact with my 7 year old daughter and that resulted in a lot of guilt. Wife's friend and I decided to put relationship on hold and we remain friends.
Please understand that my ex can be a very evil woman. I know I sound like the bad guy here, but my ex did some VERY bad things during the course of our marriage.
Lately I feel like I have been on a bit of a mini-roller coaster. Over the past 6 months I have gone from feeling "elated" that I am single and free to a little depressed over the failure of the situation. I have absolutley no interest in my ex, but what bothers me is the "death of the family."
Today I am seeing a therapist who is helping me through this transition phase. Our primary focus is on ensuring that my daughter has a happy and stable life. Things are very good on that front, kidlet and I have been spending a lot of time together doing fun activities and she seems to be very well adjusted to the situation.
I was on match.com and dated a few nice girls, but I just feel i have very little to give in a relationship.
So, that is where I am today. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. I always felt that this was very good free therapy.
