Yeah, well I have moved on, just not with another woman. I do my own thing, I don't talk about us. I don't talk at all: remember there is zero communication allowed from me to her. I do my own thing.
If I am right, the "yuk" of divorce is just starting. I think that lots of people think "once I have the divorce finalized, everything gets better, easier." But that is just when things get real. Rent payments. Jobs. etc. She needs it. She'll get it. Things will become clearer, it is just a matter of time. My bet though, is that she will be angrier before she is contrite. How much time will it take for her to regret it? and will I be around when she does? Those are the interesting questions.
As for the losses the kids suffer - Losing the family home is just one part of a big tragedy. They've lost daily contact with their father. They've lost trust in the adults that were their parents. They've lost their college funds. They've lost their soccer coach. They've lost family vacations. They've lost much, and it won't stop.
I don't mean to sound overly negative. I am realistic about what is happening here. Divorce stinks. "The kids will be fine" might apply to situations where the marriage was high conflict, but that's not what this was. The kids lose. It's a darn shame.
