I am from the Lone Star State as well. My WAW walked away almost 5 months ago. For the many of the same reason that you have read on this website. I started here by just reading the forum. I read a lot of sitch here, I bought and read both DR and DB, and I learned that the people are here for support and to give support to others like them.
I don't know about you, but some of these sitch I have read, are in my opinion, are a lot worse off than mine, but yet I an here. No one can give you a guarantee of how your sitch will work out. Your sitch, like the rest of us, will work out the way it is suppose too. These are very good people here. They anonymously tell their stories to strangers that they would not want to tell anyone else. They're, in some cases, living under the same emotional strain (H#LL) that you and I are. But they take the time to help other out with their advice and unfortunately their life experiences.
Like you, when I came here I was looking for a magic bullet to stop the pain and hurt. To bring my WAW back to me and put my family back together again. I want to know what the success rate was for the DB/DR techniques. I asked the question like you have or read on another forum. I have learned that there is no one answer to our question. Yes, I believe there have a number of successes and Yes, there has been some failures. But I the one thing I have learned here is that rebuilding yourself (GAL & PMA) is just as important to your life, as rebuilding our M/R. If you don’t take care of you first, you will not be successful with rebuilding you R. This process take time and time is important emotional stabilizer. Also success is in the eye of the be-holder and that is very hard to put hard numbers on.
I for one (being here longer than some and not as long as other) have found inspiration, compassion, understanding, knowledge, encouragement, honesty, and a group of people sharing all of this without asking for nothing in return from you or me. I am grateful for the people here willing to listen to me complain, cry, and express those 2 a.m. thoughts and answering my ask dumb questions. I have taken everything in consideration and used their advice if it fits with my sitch.
I am not trying to bust your chops .... But one of the things I have learned here is a 1% chance of success is a lot more I would have had if I did not do anything. Never quit trying! Never give up! And get up one more time than you get knock down. I have gotten a lot of strength from these friends and you will too, if you let them help.
