Gosh.... I'm calm now but boy has this sent me through the roof...
Twinhope I'm going to your thread too... we are in very similar situations... Mine being so new... out of house 3 weeks... going on 4 weeks and I'm just not use to some of the disconnect I'm getting when it comes to the kids...
T2L - I've done pretty much what you have done... Read DB right away.. got on these boards all within the first week. He moved out of house a month after bomb and I have actually played it good... some backsliding but I have really been able to separate the OW from our M problems ... BUT when it comes to the kids I will fight till I can't fight anymore and I don't believe in letting them off easy.. I will send him an email today and it will come from a nice place but I will set up some boundries ... ie. when he will call to talk to kids etc.. we haven't really done this and because I travel for my job he has to usually watch the kids during the week.
I have played it nice and friendly, he has actaully showed emotion the last two weeks so he is coming in and out of the fog.. it is confirmed that he is sick b/c he would have never done this prior to this place he is in.
I do believe in holding him accountable - I didn't have kids to do it all alone... now I know that I will and do do most of it but I believe in holding him accountable..
I'm a very strong person to begin with so my 180 would be to count on him and show him I need his help ... not the opposite.. he knows I can do it all by myself... and the more he is around the house with the kids that is the only time the fog seems to lift....
jgrind I will read your post and reply to it here shortly...
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
