I will chime in here on the "booty call" bit. I personally know of one DBer who continued the booty call such as yourself and today is back with her H. While the people here are truely trying to help, there are just too many variables for a one size fits all approach. You know your H best, what you have to do is be able to absorb all that is going on while you are remaining physical with your H.
Don't let the physical state dictate your emotional state. Keep things in perspective. Don't get blinded it.
I do agree you have to set some type of boundaries. Also, be aware of patterns. If your H initiates rendezvous with you, why not try to initiate on your own and see what happens. Monitor things. If you get a reaction, neg or pos. note it.
Michelle has a short article about this exact subject. I'll see if I can find it.
