did you find anything to help with the naseau from the chemo?
Yes I did, but will have to look it up and get back to you. I can't remember the names of the drugs. I actually had an easier time with the chemo (slept most of the time) than I did the radiation. That really sucked. Wore me out and I got some painful burns.
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do you really think your BC contributed to the sitch in your marriage? I mean, our H are so diff, in how they handled things, but, I get so angry thinking that this is all ok, because of my lupus and more than likely cancer, cancer is the only thing that would do what they had to do, and with me already on it, my results arent as cut and dry as yours would be as you werent already on chemo. our health, the scared of what if I die, can it REALLY lead men to what they are doing? or is it just something in them that was already there, and our health issues triggered it?
Each situation is different. I don't think my BC was the sole cause, but I do think it was the final trigger. Sort of a last straw.
There were other problems that added to it, and I took a lot of things for granted. Things that were important for him were routine for me. We had vastly different childhoods, although that is not ever an excuse. It just caused me to have different expectations. Now I am trying to not have any expectations.
If I can suggest, there is a lot on this board about prayer and forgiveness. Please read as much of it as you can. You have every right to be very angry at how you have been treated, by your H and the OW. But that anger is going to use up important energy that you need to get well. I can also tell that you are afraid, and that's ok. I'm still afraid. But none of us are going to get out of this alive, and I would rather have time to enjoy and appreciate each and every day that I have. I would hate to be someone that gets in the car to go to work...and never comes home.
It will be ok. Keep breathing. Pray. Know that I am here and will try to help you however I can. Lots of others here will to.
I'll get back to you about the drugs.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
