Yikes! You are right, it's hard to imagine saying this but compared to what I've already done...I don't have so much of a problem explaining why I don't think I can keep working toward reconciliation while he is actively seeking a revenge A (I can reference the walls and windows info from "Not Just Friends") I just am having a hard time admitting to him that I snooped! We both need to look at our actions and ask ourselves, "Would I do this if my spouse were right here." And I am just bracing myself for the, "You didn't!!!!" How do I respond to that? By saying, "You are so right, I didn't, and now I see what the damage is and I don't want our marriage to suffer any more damage. I just want to have a healthy relationship with each other, one where we have the appropriate walls and windows in place." Something like this???
