My W Convinced, D Is The Answer!

[Little Engine]

LOL. My BIL is a plastic surgeon and when he would come in the summer he would shoot up my SIL's with botox.

[A in Ohio]

I have nothing against tats either. In my post, I told my W that I just don't "get them" and she took it to mean "I hate them". Heck, she had 3 when we met. If I hated them so much them why did I get married?

Neilh - Your right, no need to text her back. Let me wonder how you are.

[Little Engine]

I always held it over W's head. What I used to tell her: "The Bible says God made man in his image, I'm pretty sure when we get to see him he probably won't be covered in tats!" It always made her laugh.

[Little Engine]

I don't begrudge anyone who has one, just not for me. Some of my friends have them and they are pretty cool.

[runningoutoftime]

LOL. My BIL is a plastic surgeon and when he would come in the summer he would shoot up my SIL's with botox.

How convenient!!!

[jame38]

LE,

Hang in there your doing so good, i know u down. My wife made the same statement that u made, OM accepts me for who i am not who he wants me to be.. That was a big problem with me, the position i had the time i felt i had to keep a certain apperance for the community....Such a mess up, about 6 months ago was when i realized i married her for who she was, the funny, laughed all the time person.. Thats what she gets now... Cant change the past just can be happy and show her i accept her for who she is, not what she is doing. LE i think u are ahead of me, and doing well. Hope u get to talk to the kidos today. Got to get ready for daughter 18th today, kida sad, she is a adult today. I text W on the way in from work, our daughter is an adult now :-( she text me back, she is...but she will always be our little girl...One of the few things we did right! That was kinda sad to me.

[Little Engine]

Hey James--I can't say I'm doing better, but I think I may be further along. W wearing this dude's ring is so messed up. W has been e-mailing and calling and I am not in the mood to talk to her. Just reading about your D made me tear up and thinking about the next 12 years when our D will turn 18. Just hate that they have to have a future with us apart. I cannot handle the thought of going to birthday parties and holidays where W will be and if OM is still part of the pic as her H! Really flipping out today about all of that. At the same time, just hating her for all of the stupid things she has done to get under my skin.

[Babygirl]

hey LE do you really hate her, or do you hate her actions and decsions she has made? I am trying to learn the diff between the 2. its hard, but its something my C said to think about...

HEY how is the rain there? UGH HATE IT!! i should be saying traci, its good for your winter wheat, but like I care? we just broke our last year record for percipitation lol!!

did you go eat with the kiddos??
warm woodstove fire hugs from me

[Little Engine]

No didn't go see the kids. Can't handle it, I am really on edge today about all of this. W calling me and pestering me isn't helping. I think I really hate her. She is not my W, just a selfish person who won't put our children's best interests ahead of her own. She said "Could I be married to you for the rest of my life? Sure. Would I be happy? Maybe. That is why this is so hard, because you are my friend." Instead she goes and chooses this idiot and disrupts the lives of our kids and me. I didn't want her to be unhappy I just wanted her to be happy with me. She has given up on that idea and only time and more bad experiences will make her hopefully see that she goofed up.

[Babygirl]

gotcha. and sadly feel ya. I gave up teeter totters a long tim ago, less it was playing with the kids.

least you got what you did. in my sitch, there is the world of nothing, but the I am here that should be good enuff, and its not.

I only teeter totter with my kids, not with my h and our m.