H moving out!! Crisis I need help

[twinhope]

TxMom, We have the small children thing in common and this is very difficult for me trying to go thru all this and not having help. I ran into a similar situation a couple of weeks ago when my one daughter was having difficulty going poo. It got so bad she was screaming, kicking, crying in pain and I don't have any family here and all my friends live about 30mins away. I called the ped and he suggested an enema(sp?) It was 9pm and I did not want to drag both my daughters to the store. I tried calling my H and texting him with no response. I finally asked my neighbor to sit with the girls so I could run to the store. My H called back at about 11:30pm and offered no help no feeling bad no wondering if she was ok. All he said was, "I wouldn't know what to do anyway" What a crock god forbid he offer to help. He never even checked later to see how she was or the next day to see how she made it through the night. I feel the same way you do in that it is one thing to leave me but your kids! This is not the man I married or the man I knew! I don't feel they should be let off the hook but T2L is right. They are in a big fog and it is obvious by their behavior that they have no idea what in the world they are doing. I think we need to take care of our children as if they aren't there and not expect anything from them. They are wrong, very wrong but not even our kids are clearing the fog. The ball will drop and they will suffer it is just a matter of when. I know for me that I have to be so strong. I am working full time, taking care of the twins, taking care of a huge house, and taking care of 2 dogs with no help or relief except when their part-time Dad shows up one night a week and every other weekend. The funny thing is that my H thinks he has lost everything and I have it easy! We are all here to support each other and we will get through this as better people may it be with our S's(hopefully) or without! I know when I am down I look at my girls and think of how blessed I am to have them and that I need to keep it together for them to show them a responsible, dedicated, and loving parent because they aren't seeing that from their Dad. Sometimes I would like to tell him that I hope and pray that our girls never ever marry a man like him! The way he is now anyway!