Good to hear from everyone! T2L, I am so happy for you and your progress that you are making with your H. It seems to really be making a difference. I also want to thank you for being such a big support on this board. You always have good things to say and are very helpful. Actually everyone here is very helpful! It is good to read all of our updates and help each other get through this most difficult time. I have pulled out DR to review again and I went over the section on infidelity. I forgot about this section and it talks about if your S is not willing to end the A that you can to the After the Last Resort which in a way seems to be Plan B. I know you advised me to do Plan A first and I am going to try it is just so hard. He really is not accepting of anything I throw out there. I have written my letter in prep for Plan B and somedays I think I should just give it to him b/c this is so hard.
Update: He visited the house the other day before picking up the girls from daycare. He said that I was acting funny. I was nice and friendly but he sensed something was wrong. He asked over and over again and I kept saying nothing. He was not happy with that response and he came in the living room and sat down and talked for 45mins. He wanted my opinion on a new job for me needed me to be the devils advocate. I told him that I would love to but being that we are not together I did not want to put neg in his mind. He said that he had no one to talk to about this. We talked some more and when he went to leave he went to give me a hug and I gave him one but he didn't like how I hugged him. He then ran into my friend at daycare and asked her what was wrong with me. He wants me to be more like him and be cordial. She asked him what does he expect and asked him what he wanted and he told her we were not getting back together. Then he asked her to tell me that he wants to be there for me and that he wants me to confide in him and to know he is always here for me. Crazy isn't it!
He then told his mom that I was very hard to get a hold of these days and that I am so wrapped up in my own life that I can't even explore being friends with him and that if I loved him so much why haven't I done anything to try and get him back like jumping his bones. Wow, I hear this and think the fog is thick! Any comments or advice on this situation!
I hope everyone has a good day! I will check back in later!
Me-30 H-30 M-6yrs T-14yrs Twin D's-2 Bomb-1/01/08 Left Home 2/01/08 (rented a room) Back Home 4/02/08 Left Home 5/08/08 (moved into own apt.) OW-21 5/29/08
