Or DQ you could be the one to quietly encourage couple time and date night. Be available for babysitting and taking kid on holidays and having them over for the weekend.
My mother was staunch about this with me , but I did not take it up. Mainly because she has a great marriage and no one did it for her , so I suppose I did not see the benefit.
You on the other hand have experience and can use that to point out pitfalls of neglecting spouse.
I dont think you have to run H name through the mud to make a point. Share the responsibility of your marriage breakdown and tell her .. I wish that i had of done ....... we may of had a better marriage and hey we may of not..... but daughter it was an area we did not do well in.....dont make our mistake.
Marrying someone like her father may be ok. She is probably different from you , she may be better suited to someone like her father. Don't doom her marriage before it has got off the ground. Give her every bit of support and encouragement even if it means biting off your tongue sometimes..... ha ha
