2008 = Crazy Year (F'd Up 14)

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Ok. Figured I'd start a new.

Here's the link:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1613320&page=1#Post1613320

Here's are the last few posts for continuity:

Well, I actually had a decent weekend. Quiet house, but kept the music or tv on to break the silence. Really missed the k's - can't say I missed W all that much. Is that good?

Heard tonight through friends that W was talking to a D mom about getting tips to get more $$ from me in a D. This mom did very well due to circumstances (x-H owns a successful company). Apparently the D-mom is really not interested. It will actually be good if they do talk because the D-mom realized about 6 months after separation that she made a mistake. Oh well.

W was up in cave all night watching tv. I was with K's. D's waited to watch a tv show with me and then S13 and I did same. She is totally avoiding me - guess I will leave her be.

Read "Love Must be Tough" again. My letter from L really was along those lines. I will have to reinforce at some point. I am definitely not pursuing / not needy. I do think I need to say that ILY but we cannot continue this way and even though it is not what I will not stand in your way if you want to leave and in fact that maybe for the best right now. Have to think on that.

Well, I actually had a decent weekend. Quiet house, but kept the music or tv on to break the silence. Really missed the k's - can't say I missed W all that much. Is that good?

Yes, it means you are disconnecting from her as you should be.

Heard tonight through friends that W was talking to a D mom about getting tips to get more $$ from me in a D. This mom did very well due to circumstances (x-H owns a successful company). Apparently the D-mom is really not interested. It will actually be good if they do talk because the D-mom realized about 6 months after separation that she made a mistake. Oh well.

It seems like the d-mom is smart enough to tell W not to be a bitc*h

W was up in cave all night watching tv. I was with K's. D's waited to watch a tv show with me and then S13 and I did same. She is totally avoiding me - guess I will leave her be.

There is no other choice but to LHB. It's her choice. Give her what she craves maybe she won't crave it any more.

Read "Love Must be Tough" again. My letter from L really was along those lines. I will have to reinforce at some point. I am definitely not pursuing / not needy. I do think I need to say that ILY but we cannot continue this way and even though it is not what I will not stand in your way if you want to leave and in fact that maybe for the best right now. Have to think on that.

I think you should not say ILY, but say that we cannot continue this way...
Do not give HER any hope.

(((Lost))) Let her be. This is her choice and now she gets to live it. I'm not sure I would say ILY either, but I would definatley lay the "we cannot continue this way..." out there and see where she takes it. I would let her know that you leaving is not an option. I would also let it be known that her plans to get "more" in the case of a D will be met with staunch oposition and that you are prepared to fight for what is "equitable" and that what she has spent (squandering marital assets) will be itemized and used in court. If love must be tough, then love must be tough as nails. Business is business and personal is personal and the one does not have anything to do with another.
Hang in there. I'm glad you had a relaxing weekend.

Hey, lis. I know its hard to have such a quiet house. Blows. Better to be out, anyway.

I think that if you say ILY, she is not going to believe you and will probably just make her mad anyway.