Lifeline...I saw another thread of yours where you are finding evidence that your husband may be trying to plan a revenge affair.
Sweetie...I just don't know what else to say to you about your whole situation. First off, the cruel things he said and did to you in the bedroom (which you've discussed on another thread) and secondly, this attempt to get you back...while on the surface they seem understandable due to his extreme hurt and betrayal...but on the other hand, these are signs of a man who is just plain NOT going to really "get it" and be able to reconcile with you fully.
I would like to just say for the record that I don't think you should be attempting to "win him back" at this time by being more sexual. I think you should just separate from him, so that he can work through his emotions and anger, without dragging you down further along with him.
I feel total empathy for his pain and feelings of betrayal...but I don't see how staying together is helping him in that way at all.
If he "must" have a revenge affair to even the score...well I can understand that logically he believes it may make him feel better. But really hon - while you are trying to find ways to repair and be sexy and so forth, if he is not fully on board and instead, is trying to find sex with others...specifically (from your other post) is also possibly hurting others and putting them at risk (by not disclosing that he is married on his online profiles)...then I just don't see what advice anyone could give you other than to just set him free for now to work through his stuff...and try to reconcile later after some counseling, etc.
I'm so sorry you are going through all of this and I wish you two the best, and I will pray for a happy outcome somehow.
