for his own self-preservation, and also for his wife to have time to consider -- and feel -- the consequences of her poor decisions.
Puppy, I think your advice is good and I understand your point. But I'm wondering how long would you suggest he goes dark? I know he has great difficulty with this. Knowing exactly what to do. Also, at what point do you think his wife will feel the consequences for her poor decision?
I don't know if this lesson can be taught and absorbed by every student. And even when it is, over time it does tend to be forgotten (like the pain of child birth). Even then, some might need to be divorced and on their own for years to fully get it.
With BC's wife.... I don't know.... from what he has described I have a feeling she may be desperate and if he's not there, she'll just grab onto another lifeboat. Although I believe BC would be better off without a desperate, needy, woman who just wants any man to save her, but for his child's sake, I would prefer it was BC.
I might be totally off base and wrong on my thoughts here...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
