It sounds like you are frazzled. I dealt with this with my wife and it was pure misery. Who wants to beg for sex? I'd rather just take care of myself and keep some self-respect.
I think you need to decide how important sex is to you. Could you be happy-content-whatever without having a good sex life? If you can't then you really need to state this to your husband.
You: "Husband I love you and care for you, but I cannot continue to live in a sexless marriage. What is your plan to get us into a pattern of regular toe-curling sex?" If you get that cricket-chirping silence, then I think you have your answer.
Are you willing to divorce your husband over this issue? You need to know that answer because if you put this out there the way I am suggesting you will need to follow through and take stages to begin to end this relationship if he refuses to address this issue.
I could be friends with my wife if we weren’t married and not having sex, but I couldn’t continue to be her husband and not have sex. Celibacy wasn’t what I signed up for when I married. And no amount of self-analysis could erase from me the desire to be sexual with my wife. It is one of my strongest needs and I was becoming someone I didn’t like much due to the resentment I felt.
CN
edited . . . It looks like Bag has a similar point of view (we must have been posting at the same time).
