Suppose there is such a place as over the rainbow?

[tpaschal]

P.S. If your L says it is possible and is fairly standard in your state as it is in others, maybe your L can just add it in to the divorce papers without making a big deal about it. The opposing L might not even notice it to bring it to JA's attention. If JA signs off on the papers, then it is court ordered whether he knows it or not! <evil cackle>