Suppose there is such a place as over the rainbow?

[tpaschal]

Unfortunately, I think once your divorce is final, you have no say in who JA brings around the children unless you feel they are in danger.

While you are still going through the D, you have every right to have it stated in your S papers that JA has no unrelated overnight guests of the opposite sex while he has the boys.

Mrs. H,

Momof2 may be right (TP waves at Momof2...Hi!), but I would still check with your lawyer. "No unrelated overnight visitors of the opposite sex during possession times" is a fairly standard part of the visitation rules in my state, both during and after a divorce, if you know to ask for it.

I think here the standard is 10 or 11pm to 6 or 7am, but I asked for 8pm to 8am, which would be a little before my younger kids bedtime to a little after when they would normally be up. I actually went further and asked that NO person with whom my H had a romantic or dating relationship be allowed around my children AT ALL during our separation. Once the D is final I'm sure that won't continue, but the "no overnight visitors" will, until he marries her. Ugh.

But don't mention it to JA at all. Go straight to your lawyer with this one. If you can get it put in, great. If not, then at least you asked. Just my 2 cents.

TP