Thanks ST - I agree too that is why I struggle..part of me wants to run and take my kids away from him and the other wants to be his friend so he does continue to open up to me... read below my latest and this is my struggle this is not the person I married... I'm so upset that I can't even count on him as a father right now... only when it works in his favor... something has to give!!!!!!!!!
I need advice....
to refresh my H is not living here and hasn't moved into an apt either...staying at OW apartment
I am besides myself and I don't want to lay into him when I hear from him this morning so help....
My 5 month old was choking last night after I gave her last bottle... gagging on her formula so I ran and got the suction and was hitting her back .. it was enough where I got panicked so I called and text my H at 8:30 ... then I called 911 but as soon as I did this she started crying and I knew it was clear then... I was upset couldn't reach my H and he NEVER called or text me back... I had texted him again at 9:30 telling him what happened and wish I could have counted on him... again NEVER heard anything the whole night.
This morning my almost 4yr was crying for him and wanted to call him... called him twice at 7am and 7:30am - he didn't answer and she left a voice mail...
Where are his priorities... I can not handle this... leave me but not the kids... I want to tell him he can't see his kids anymore until he can grow up and start putting them first....
I know many of you struggle with this from your S too... tell me how to handle b/c I'm not going to sit back and let him just come and go when he wants too and not be accountable... but I don't want to lay into him either which will end up in a huge fight...
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
