JUST USED LRT-WHAT DO I DO NOW???

[Sanderika]

Hello 1hope,

I appreciate the words of comfort and support.

I hope my H does not marry her.

Funny, not so much for my H because he will have to live it to see it and that is what needs to happen to him. He needs to take responsibility for his choices and actions and he won't be able to until he is truly burned by her. I don't see a happily ever after tale here. I hope snodderly is right that 6-12 months post divorce my H will have regret and remorse. I hope it brings him to his knees.

I more so hope he doesn't marry her for the sake of my son and myself. My son does not need this person in his life. My son does not need her ever. He and I need her completely out of our lives at this point forever. If H marries her, my son and I will never be free of her. Frankly, I can't handle the thoughts of it and it scares the hell out of me. To me, if H wants her in HIS life, fine. It doesn't give him the or any rights to bring her into ours. I am going to argue this til I die if I have to and in court if I have to.

I have very good reasons why this woman cannot have contact with my son and I. One day soon I will post more on this, I may have mentioned it in some of my previous writings, I will look back. I actually have 2 threads running right now and when I consolidate into one I will write about this event that happened at my home on November 7, 2006. It is a long story and a very painful one at that.

I am not planning on backsliding at all now. I am not going to instigate any contact with H. H has made his bed, H can lie in it. H can (and hopefully he does) wonder from a distance what might be going on over here.

I welcome any of you who read this to click on my name and view my story from previous posts. There may be hidden lessons in it for a lot of people. While it is a classic MLC sitch, it has twists that are interesting. I know I read and read on this board everyday and I see many things that make me ponder and I can relate to. I hesitate to offer advice to anyone though, I don't feel like I am qualified to do so yet. Sitch is still to raw here.

WELL, 1hope I have rambled on here too much, I find it hard to keep a post short. Seems I start writing and can't stop.

Thank you my friend,

Sanderika