For the Guy with Kids and a WW Diez y Seis

[lost_in_space]

H4H

Thanks. Have turkey at my mom's today - me and the K's going.

Nothing yesterday on the meeting with "S". No problem. Watched some sports on the tube and read "Love must be tough" again.

Off for a bike ride now. If nothing else, I will be the fittest I have been in ages!

[hopeful4her]

Sounds good.

BTW, what the F is Boxing Day?

I always see it on our calendars here. Always wondered what it was.

[hopeful4her]

Got a call from the wife today around 10am. Wondering what time I'm picking up the puppies. She could take them back if I wanted. I asked her if she knew that I was at work. She said no. She thought I was off like her. The puppies kept her up all night. If she left them outside, they were barking. When she would let them in, they were running around and pooping and peeing everywhere. She is still trying to clean up messes.

"What? You don't want a poopy carpet, too?"

She says that she will take them back now, then. Sounds like she is in a hurry to get them the hell out of there. She sounds a little frustrated. I ask her for a favor. She says what. I ask if she could get some dog food, because I forgot yesterday and they didn't eat last night. She says she will get them some, poor things.

This morning, it rained. Its been like a month that its rained. I noticed that the girls left all the halloween stuff out on the deck. Soaked now. That will look real good. It had to rain last night.

I also have taken all of our pictures back down. No more "shrine" as she called it.

[kat727]

I am sure she will notice. When I took all of ours down, ex just told me not to throw them away because they meant something to him. Well they meant something to me too before the betrayal. They may never get it.

Sorry about the rain and the Halloween stuff. Maybe it will dry out ok.

kat

[hopeful4her]

Yeah, remember when she was giving me crap for having them up?

Took them down last week. The Marriage Contract too. Last week was pretty eye opening for me. I feel like I'm letting her go. Moving on so to speak. I think the time spent together yesterday just kinda messed with me.

But I'm much better now

SHE'S the one that took all of our other pics. I just have a few and they are of us. She left me pics of the kids that we had on a picture wall in the hallway, but all the ones of us...gone.

Not the first time this happened with the Halloween stuff. Happened last year too. That time was BOTH of us.

[Sugar and Spice]

((H4H)) She'll notice the change in the decor. Sucks about the Halloween stuff.

Glad that you are better now. Did you ever find out who's shaving kit that was?

Hope you're having a good night.

[kat727]

I think you are trying to drop the rope. Now just don't pick it back up when she pulls at it...that is the hard thing.

kat

[hopeful4her]

Hey suga.

She HAD to notice. The halloween stuff will be ok. Just have to wash all the outfits.

I never did figure out the kit, but I looked for it and it was not under the sink, nor in her cabinet in the bathroom. Closet either, as far as I could tell. Gone. Must have been his, I reckon.

When I got home, everything was exactly the same as I left it. All the stuff was still outside out on the deck as it was. Wet. She either left it thinking "Let him clean his own mess" or it was raining again. Looks like we got a lot of rain at the house.

I've been needing to work on some things outside the house. Clean up mostly some junk that has been there since before she left. By the time I get home, its too late and when I don't have the girls, I'm not really around.

I never heard from the girls last night. I know she is not going to remind them. I usually don't try to remind them when they are here. I think it makes both of us feel good about ourselves when they forget to call who they're not staying with.

What a game.

I was so tempted to send her a text last night.

"Thanks for bringing the puppies and the food. Just wanted to tell you that you did a great job on the party, as usual. Lots of fun. I can pay you back manana."

Almost hit the button, then erased it.

[hopeful4her]

I think you are trying to drop the rope. Now just don't pick it back up when she pulls at it...that is the hard thing.

kat

I'm trying hard to. Hate feeling lonely. I am missing affection. Missing touch. I've been praying for her to pull at it. Then I can just let her keep pulling at it.

Still feel good, its just some of the feelings I get.

[kat727]

I remember feeling all of that. I would be lying to you if I said I still don't have those moments on occasion. I do try to stay busy and I have the kids always trying to get me to do more! You have to push yourself. Hugs.

kat