I did the rebound thing with someone I met on the DB forum. Turns out quite a few ladies were doing the rebound thing with the same guy
He was a smooth talker, said exactly what I needed to hear and I jumped into the relationship with both feet. For me the reason was needing to feel something different from what I was feeling.
Holy cow Cathy.... I am amazed at how many people connect dating-wise in this message board. Not surprising given that most people are single and looking to move on. However, how on earth do people from all over country connect?
Anyway... no criticim, just surprised to hear how it happens.
Like I said in my contribution to the thread.... I honestly wonder if it is not healthy in closing out the old sitch to have a rebound experience. If for nothing more than to prove to one's own self that they can attract someone new and can perhaps find out some of what they dont want. Kind of a trial and error thing.
For me, my drug and alcohol laced flings certainly showed me a darker side of humanity that I was enlightened to stay away from. It allowed me to experience some extremities of personalities that caused me to grow significantly. And wake me up.
The calamity was so extreme, it gave me a sense of what I wanted to recover to. I am now very happily married to a fabulous lady who has no drug or alcohol background whatsoever. More importantly, my program of recovery helps me in every area of my life.
So in a wierd and twisted way, my spin-out rebound adventure ended up leading me to a life I love. You know the song, "God Bless the Broken Road" (... that led me straight to you) sung by Rascal Flats? That is kinda what I feel like.
So even if we spin out in what feels like a wrong rebound direction, good can come of it. Am sure you learned a lot from your experience. Yes?
