I am sorry you have to watch your xW being careless and having her BF over to sleep in her house with your D present. She is so f@cking self centered!!!
You have no reason to feel guilty about talking to your D and I would agree your talk to xW directly about her actions (only of you can keep cool about it). She should be more careful.
I am glad you are sticking to setting boundaries. It will only do you good. It will probably take some time for her to realise things have changed and she cant be threatening you etc. but if you are consistent she will get it and hopefully cooperate more and leave you alone.
And yes, move to Surviving the big D, the group there is great!! K
