trying to be patient and strong 6

[Sugar and Spice]

Wow Brokenhearted, I'm going to print that and refer to it often. I'm terrible at boundaries and that made a lot of sense.

Karen, while I am totally with the "why do you care if you make him mad?" crowd. I also understand the not wanting to make him mad or rock the boat. Peace at any price is a tough way to live. Sometimes its just easier to let it go than deal with the BS involved with calling a spade a spade, but on this one you have to do it. This is about the kids and if you won't stand up for them, who will?

I asked H tonight if he wanted to go to DDs parent teacher conference and he hemmed and hawed and made excuses up. Then I reminded him that he hadn't met her and he told that he had at Back to School Night. I had to remind him that he didn't bother with back to school night and has never met her teacher. So then he gets mad and says,"no, I don't want to go, alright?" It was like pulling frickin' teeth just to get him to come clean. The saddest part of all is he used to REALLY be into their school work and their education and now he just blows it off...stupid.

I guess the point of my long winded story it to point out that when it comes time to zap them, (preferably with a cattle prod) your best bet is to make sure it stings, that way you get their attention.

If he gets mad...he gets mad. Hes got the same shoes to get glad in. Welcome to the consequences of your actions, I am your host: Karen's L. How else is he going to learn? Even if they don't get better, you will feel more empowered within the R for the future.