I did feel myself slipping today as I was e-mailing basic information we have to clean up (the dogs, pensions, etc.) and I found myself stopping and saying "she doesn't need to know anything but the basic facts." So, I deleted stuff and sent her the bare bones edition.
That is a change for me.
As for her happiness, she still wants me to be the bad guy (read my update for today) and I'm dropping the rope. Period. I have to b/c it isn't worth it for me. I'm done.