Seven yrs ago my wife left me for another man, I was devasted to the point of killing myself, we had two kids 10 and 6 I could not fathem losing my wife and my kids to another man, I worked my but off to win her ,I did all the right things that I learned from this forum becoming the man that she would want,confident apealing, selfassured, fun, the man she always wanted. She finnaly came around ended the affair WOM.At first it was like a honey moon all over again for the first 3 yrs, but them I started becoming the old husband that I was, my wife started to withdraw from me and I felt that the reason was that she still had feelings for the old boyfriend, the fights starded the lack of sex, in so many ways back the the olden days. About one yr ago I met someone I felt head over heels in Sex craze love with. I felt that was payback time to my wife and that since the kids were older they would be more understaing. Well its one yr later my wife decided that she was not going to beg after 8 months and she started channging her image and her attitud towards me she lost weight started working out, going out amd meeting people, I started feeling akward and jealous but still kept the girl friend. WELL THIS WEEK SHE FILIDE FOR THE BIG D.I was shocked and hurt but felt that she didnt give me any hints that she was interested in working on our relationship, well this past Sat. when she was getting ready to go out for the night I told her that I loved her I want to hold on to our relationship and would not sign any papers related to the divorce, where she replied NO ITS OVER I'm DONE WITH YOU,I want to give up the girl friend and save my marriage but affraid that if I dont play my cards right I'll loose both of them and most importantly my kids.
