Hoosiermama... I sent it to see if he would respond to me...He ignored me all day... how do you go from making love and I love you to nothing....
And..wanted to see if he thought about what she would say....
I did not and have not sent it to her...my sister said he will never come back if I do...so even though its slim to nill.... i guess I am not sending
As soon as my initial hearing is over--which hopefully will be next week--unless there are many related legal things pending, I have an email all ready to send OW. It includes a picture of our family on our last vacation, and a description of D's emotional and academic life right now, which is greatly affected by all of this. See, my OW claims to believe she's only been supporting my H while he decides what to do about our marriage. And even claims to believe that she's supporting D and I in that. Doesn't that just make her a lovely person? So I'm sending her this note to thank her for her support and to let her know the results of it. I think it's only fair that she should be aware. And I don't give a rat's patoot what H thinks about it, because he's lived in so much denial so far. Five months out he still refuses to use the word "affair." Well, guess what--that's what he's having. And so is your H.
How do you go from making love to no contact? Easy, for men in this position. They're not wired like the rest of us, at least not right now, and they can compartmentalize their feelings, so they switch between their wives and their OW like flipping a light switch. You'll make yourself crazy trying to understand how his reality works, because it's a delusion.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
