You had one of the first threads when I came here...joy of life stood out to me. I wasn't lucky in the sense that I saved my marriage but I did save myself which I think is just as important if not more.
It sounds as if your H hasn't hit rock bottom yet as far as his drinking. My x had/has a problem with it too. After his DUI and he took classes he now will say I know how much I can drink and still drive. They are fooling themselves. I hope he figures out what he is doing and I am glad that you are doing well.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory