Suppose there is such a place as over the rainbow?

[tpaschal]

Mrs. H,

I would ask how you are, but I think that would be a stupid question right now. Maybe it's because I'm tired of people asking me that same question. <sigh> I will be in your shoes (house put on the market) in a few short weeks, and we go to trial on Nov. 3.

I would DEFINITELY have it put in any and all legal papers that no visitors of the opposite sex are allowed for overnight visits while JA has the possession of the boys. It's a fairly standard thing in most states. You just have to know to ask for it. Of course, if JA marries the OW right away, as I'm sure will happen with my H and his bimbo, there's nothing you can do. But until that time? Hell, yes. Do it. NOW.

This has nothing to do with turning your boys against the JA or his OW, this has to do with teaching them right and wrong according to God's word. Don't talk to your lawyer about the morality of it, tell him that for you it is a religious issue. States get very antsy (because of lawsuits) about interfering in religious practices.

Please know that I am right there with you in how you feel about losing your home. I know it's just a pile of wood and bricks, and that we'll make our own new place and new memories and blah, blah, blah.... I don't want to hear it right now. I want time to grieve the dreams that went along with this specific pile of wood and bricks. I want time to try to get over the memories of house hunting for this specific house, of H falling in love with it, of it being our perfect dream home.......

Hugs to you.
TP