WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice

[sandi2]

Okay, you asked if any women out here had advice about your W's so-called good friend. Yes, as a matter of fact I do have a piece of advice. RUN AWAY FROM HER AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND STAY AWAY FROM HER......FOREVER!! How's that?

My rsponse was that I wasn't interested in that, but that i wanted to talk to her more, mostly about what she is going thru.

Are you kidding me? You don't want to talk to her about what she is going through! Please don't kid yourself and don't try to fool us, either.

You must have liked playing with matches when you were a little boy. Listen, you are feeling like you are back in high school again and your mind and body is reacting to all of it, too. I'm telling you that this woman is poison. If you want to really, really wreck your life....you get hooked up just one time with this b*tch and you'll regret it as long as you live. How can you call her a "peach"? A peach would not do that to her friend. In my book she is worse than a b*tch! She sounds like a whore. It doesn't really matter, in my opinion, if it was a set-up job or not. If it was, then that pretty much puts your wife right there in the pot with her, doesn't it? Talk about low down! Don't think for a minute that there are not some women that would do that to their best friend......just to see if they could. I know that to be a fact! It is a challenge to them. She wants to see if she could get you interested in her long enough to cheat on your wife. Oh......I could talk for pages about this kind of woman. Please, for God's sake, don't think of her as your friend, b/c she is nobody's friend but her own. Don't return her calls and don't even think about seeing her face to face. She heard that you looked good??? She just heard about it and now she is ready to jump your bones?? Unbelievable! Don't be flattered. She's a pig.

I told you that your body will betray you. Brace yourself b/c there will probably be other women out there that will start coming on to you. If you are ready to move on without your wife......but I don't think you are and I don't think you could handle any type of situation that involved even holding hands. You would go crazy b/c of your "needs". Don't mean to sound like I am putting you down or that I think you are weak, I am saying that you are like any other person that is hurting and has been rejected. You are vulnerable. You must go into "self protection mode". Unless you do not have any morals at all (like your W's so-called best friend) and don't care who is hoping whom, then you sure better be careful and watchful. Being a female, I know that some women have no limits as to what they will do......so don't let them fool you.

I think there is too much "talk" going around....period. Yes, the fact that a lot of people are noticing positive changes in you is wonderful and it says a lot about your hard work toward self improvements. It also opens a lot of "doors" to other situations. So, again, please be careful.

I would suggest that you be extra careful in your conversations around any of your in-laws. No matter what your R with them was like during the M.......you can't depend on that now. Everything is different now. Oh, and what your W told your MIL about how she didn't think she was in love with you any more.....? Well, it is hard to be in love with your H when you are $crewing another man. So, you don't even need to be hearing this conversation second handed.

Enjoy your D and your grandchild. Maybe you need to make new friends. You need much more time to heal and to get a grip on your new look and the fact that the opposite sex is admiring you. Don't let it go to your "head".

Please take care. I am concerned about you. Please don't stray and please, please don't start drinking again. My gosh, but you have come such a long way in a very, very short time. No wonder your mind and your body is playing tricks on you and you don't know what to do. You can't really trust either at this point. Working hard is good and you are a "goal setter". You feel good about your accomplishments......and you have a right to! Take other things slow and a step at a time. People keep reminding you to slow down on expecting too much to happen too quickly, but I can see that it is your nature to do that b/c of how quickly you brought yourself out of the state you were in. It still amazes me. That says that you can be strong willed. Hope you stay that way.


Sandi