He needed the 07 tax returns for the closing on his house.
He was SO nice to me (cause he needed something) - admitted to that fact when he got what he wanted and called back. I tried to talk to him about how S was feeling about the move, how he felt he couldn't talk to him, that things weren't as sunny as he would like to think. I was hoping that it being about his son would make him more opening to listening, but in the end, he just said he wouldn't believe any of it unless the kids told him directly. Um, that's the point! They WON'T tell him directly, they can't...he's the one who walked away!! Even from his own parents!
Ugh, doesn't matter. I told him that I have gotten used to picking up the pieces of the mess he leaves behind; I'm getting pretty good at it. I'll just keep doing that. It was just an exercise in circles and his mental gymnastics again, and I'm too tired to try to show him some other possibility, some reality. No, the kids have me, and they have their therapist. You can't pick your parents.
On a kind of funny note...I went out with MIL for a little while today, leaving the kids with FIL. D had gf's D over to play for a while...as soon as I pulled in, she called her D to come home! I just had to laugh - apparently, her D is not to be around me, since I won't let my kids around her when I have the option!
Her D told my D that their divorce was final this past Tues. There is no record of that in the court system; no motions or dates since July. Someone is lying to somebody....
