I hope you realize LE, I was mostly joking about the EA (I tend to do that a lot). In all honesty I understand how that "sort-of-EA" could very easily occur after the first affair. I've been there, done that. Although I didn't have an EA or PA, the opportunities were there and I entirely understand the feelings behind it and the desire to have someone to confide in who can understand.


There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.