I would give it until the end of one month, so you have a fair picture of where you're going. Then, make the following changes:
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Also something I think that is going to come up as this game progresses is the following issues...
- I am supposed to initiate EVERY night - yet, I am not in the mood EVERY night If you genuinely don't feel in the mood say so and explain why - So, I have to GET myself in the mood...come on strong...then get shot down... leaves me sitting there ready to go and now I have to go to sleep...makes me irritated that I got myself all motivated and now I have to un-motivate myself Understood, but are you starting to break through some barriers e.g. is the feeling that accompanies rejection now changing? - she has taken the position that even if I initiate in a positive way...even if there is nothing preventing us from having sex...she can still say "no" -- with no penalty... Not very "sportswomanlike" is it? - point this out
I think once we get a little farther into this I am going to have to insist that if I succeed in initiating and she says "no" then she either...
1. sleeps on the couch 2. does "something" to relieve my issues..." 3. Or gives you an automatic "bye" the following evening - seems only fair to me
Don't forget to maintain all your other interactions and activities with her, and be calm, confident and playful throughout. Nothing whiny or complaining.
Keep us posted.
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"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
