I'd be very interested to see this as well. My own experience -- and observance of other "clashing libidos" relationships -- has always been that most low-drive partners' challenges like these end up being red herrings (Or is it "straw men"??? I always get those two mixed up . . . ), and never lead to more sex.
Puppy
So far, it is NOT leading to more sex - though it is too early to tell since she was on her period for the first week of this "game"
However, I am keeping a journal of this "game" - I know it's not good to predict a failure, but I have a feeling I am going to need some facts if this thing goes bad real quick.
For example... two nights ago I think we should have had sex.
Why? Well, I initiated in a confident manner - she liked it, she had a 2 hour nap that day and was wide awake after kids went to bed... and she said "sorry, not interested..."
so, I'm keeping track of all these nights when she should have "just done it" and yet she chose not to.
Also something I think that is going to come up as this game progresses is the following issues...
- I am supposed to initiate EVERY night - yet, I am not in the mood EVERY night - So, I have to GET myself in the mood...come on strong...then get shot down... leaves me sitting there ready to go and now I have to go to sleep...makes me irritated that I got myself all motivated and now I have to un-motivate myself - she has taken the position that even if I initiate in a positive way...even if there is nothing preventing us from having sex...she can still say "no" -- with no penalty...
I think once we get a little farther into this I am going to have to insist that if I succeed in initiating and she says "no" then she either...
1. sleeps on the couch 2. does "something" to relieve my issues...
), and never lead to more sex.
