One more thing. I personally don't think you are ready for surviving. You are NOT LEGALLY DIVORCED YET!!!! Until that last paper is signed and it's over (or maybe you are a month away from the last signature) you should be in separated or infidelity. That's my two cents.
Although I've noticed a lot of people consider just filing as actually "being divorced." I think it helps those who initialize it to feel less guilty about dating others or starting a new relationship right away.
(I personally think it just reflects back on how disrepectful they can be towards a relationship that had once been important in their life... a "throwaway attitude" towards something that had once been extremely valuable and important).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
