Well, I'm giving the info to the L and I guess she will sift through it and decide what is good or not. I'm just giving her the ammo and she gets to do the dirty work. But I think it will change our R hugely b/c I've never really hurt him like that, which is kind of how I feel like it. But I think he is really going to be my adversary in this, and I have to put the kids over him. He doesn't, someone has to. And that's why I guess I'll do it. Karen
I'm in exactly the same boat, Karen. I've kept the "dirty little secret" for so long that I feel horrible about bringing everything out into the open. Even with all of the anger and hurt that we've had to take from them for so long, we still feel uncomfortable hurting them.. go figure...
In my case, it's partly fear of the unkown.. How is he going to react when he reads everything that is written about him??? How much worse can thsi possible get???!
