said he call Saturday to talk to the girls and he didn't... But I'm quite sure he called and text the OW this weekend... how can he put her first before his kids....HOW??
I'm so angry... we have babies... we just had a newborn and I can't understand HOW and WHY he doesn't want to call to find out how his kids are???? How can someone abbandoned his babies?????
one, because is really is messed up. He let his hurt or needs go on for so long that it built up and then the OW steps in and makes it all go away. He's in another world when he's with her, and with you guys, it's back to reality, and what he's done to create this horrible mess. The more he's out of touch with you guys, the less he has to deal with his sin. This is why you must be a person and place of comfort because he must feel comfortable again to open himself up to you again. Unfortunately this is a very humbling thing for us LBSers to do, but humbling is so good for our soul.
Originally Posted By: TxMomw/2girls
This is not the man I married....he has always been such a family man and wonderful father... I don't understand how overnight this can change. I want to ask him this if he even calls today - I know it is against DB rules but I don't care today... HOW can he separate his new life with his family and kids... even if he doesn't want me - is he in-human????
No he is NOT the man you M right now. That's why you can't treat him like a normal person, I consider WAS sick. emotionally sick. If you want to have a setback, then by all means ask him this question. If you want to move forward, then please bite your tongue for now. Those questions can be asked later when he would be more willing to answer them. Or you can approach it in a totally diff way. " H, I know that this is probably a hard time for you, and I trying to understand as best as I can, but I really don't want this issue affecting the time that you spend with the kids. You have always been such a great father to them, and I hope that you are able to continue doing that." I know this is not answering your question, but there is no way he will be able to answer it anyways.
Originally Posted By: TxMomw/2girls
I'm grieving and can't understand how he can do this... Why is God doing this???? What is purpose, I'll be stronger for what... I feel I'm questioning my faith b/c I'm so hurt...
I'm going to church soon and hopefully I'll feel better but for now I don't ...
Of course God is not doing this. It is sin that entered the world that has created this. It is your H's choice to allow temptation to pull him in and sin, which will always destroy people in it's path. Now, God does ALLOW us to go thru things because he can use these things and work them for good.
Romans 8:28 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose"
Please don't question your faith. So many of us go thru this, over half of american couples. My faith is what brought me thru this, and I could never imagine going thru it with out my Lord.
I am glad your going to church. Try to get into a group or something. surround yourself with positive people and supporting people. You can get thru this, and you've got lots of people that support you in this! (((Tx)))
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
