my H kinda moved out. in the begginning before finding DB, I kicked him out saying if you can't cut contact then I think you need to leave. So he left that night I think even and stayed at a friends house. After talking with a good christian friend who said, well, if he stays YOU get to be his influence, if he goes, then the world is his influence. So I regretted my decision and told H, that if he wanted to stay home, he was welcome, that I didn't want to push him out of the kids' life earlier than needed, if he could respect my wishes to keep all contact outside of the house. He was back and forth quite a bit, mostly over at his friends for several months.
and another note to you (sorry TX for hijacking) because you've been M way longer than some of us, this is probably going to take a longer time for you. Most likely he's been happy for a long time (not the 21 years he said, that's bull) so, just expect and pray for patience and consistency. We all need it though, and the more patient and consistent we are, the better chance we have to win.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
