I would suspect that her mother telling her this does set her back. My MIL quit talking about it to my W at my suggestion. I told her that the critical talk will push her farther away. Right now they don't talk much at all. My W doesn't talk to any of her family much right now.
I was at her Sis' house with the kids this weekend and she called me to tell me that I didn't need to rush home because she was there taking care of the dogs. She didn't ask to speak to her sis or the kids.
The WAW's are different people than what we married, whether they want to believe that or not.
