I understand where you are coming from concerning the exH. You do want him to find happiness. I think that is very positive. I believe wishing someone ill is just simply bad karma.
However, these people could really try - go to IC, realize their mistakes, work on themselves and get into a R/M. The troubling thing is I still honestly believe that capability will be there. When (not if) their R/M hits a rough spot, that tendency to bolt will still be there.... I guess I see that as someone who is an addict.... They will need to control that tendency for the rest of their lives....
I totally understand you wanting to have no contact with him. In many ways, I believe the one who leaves still wants to see what is going on with the LBS. I think many of them want to see how they are doing... If they have moved on..... I think many of them want to "pop in" to see how it impacts the LBS...I think it is just more selfishness..... Perhaps, some of them have genuine regrets and wish to reconnect?
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Regardless of who he marries again someday, they will have problems as he and I did, and I think he realizes from listening to him today, that what he did with those problems is what broke the marriage, not the problems themself.
Some people take a VERY long while to "get" that one..... I still think my exW is totally clueless in that area...
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
