I just got a reply from h. The first paragraph is refering to the email I sent last night about the puppies.
Hiya. I called (film company) and cancelled that account. It was a call centre in India so it took ages! Thanks for your email, they are very sweet dogs although they have a completely ridiculous name. Did you see the photo in the Metro today of a cat climbing on a washing line? I can't imagine Maple ever being brave enough to try that.
I can't really think of anything else that goes into your appraisal... the only thing I would say is, make sure that if there is to be any effect on your salary, he only takes into account quantifiable things. On our appraisal there are sections on motivation etc. but those bits never go towards the actual appraisal.
As far as the house is concerned... I guess we need to get a couple of estate agents to come round and value it, then get it on the market. Do you want me to do that? Or do you want to do it? Or both of us? I'm happy to go with what's most comfortable for you. Do you have any idea where you would move to?
It was my white phone by the way. gutted And the insurance company are being really slow about replacing it!.
Hope you enjoyed the weekend, the weather was amazing!
H.'
On the positives it is much more upbeat and less polite and nice. There are lots of nice things in there (that I have highlighted in green) and the nice things are becoming more and more frequent (reading back I have highlighted everything apart from the bit I don't want to happen!! hmmmm). And I have achieved my goal of talking about things other than r and splitting up. Also note the 'hiya.' greeting - much nicer than 'Hi.' imo, but the content of the 3rd paragraph - *sigh* .
My questions are (or what I need to get straight is)
1. I'm wondering if he has forgotten that he thought he needed to come up for a one last days work on the place to get it ready for sale? Should I mention this or not? I suppose it isn't essential that he do this but would be better to stick to his word.
2. Does he want his share of the equity straight away or is he renting and doesn't need it. That way we can rent it out if the price isn't right or I could continue living there if it fails to sell and take on the bills apart from the mortgage to enable him to afford rent.
3. This needs to be a joint decision and I don't want him to agree to go with estate agents without my say so, however I am not sure that I can be there when they come round and not be a bit upset. Should he see them without me there? Or maybe it would be a 180 if we saw them together and I controlled myself!
4. Should I tell him of my plans of where I will move?
5. We haven't discussed equity shares - should I bring this up yet?
6. I really don't want to have to deal with this till after I come back from holiday (end of October). As I have waited this long for him is it ok to ask him to wait till then.
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