Hope4us struggle, part 9 or 10 or whatever

[Hope4us]

Thanks guys. No, he has school today and he didn't get home until 3 am. Oh boy, won't he be fun tonight?

S20 TM'd W and myself last night and said he and his GF of over 3 years broke up. He's pretty torn up. I told him I knew EXACTLY what he was going through and if there was anything I could do to help, let me know. But it's hard. He's away at school and there's not a lot I can do other than to be available if he wants to talk. I'm guessing by his comments last night that the GF found a new guy, but that's just a guess. Better to happen now than if they would have become really serious, but it still hurts. I really am surprised it hasn't happened before now. They started dating in H.S. and have lasted through over 2 years of college at different schools, but again, doesn't make it any easier for him.

W and I had another good day/evening yesterday. And I spent quite a bit of time thinking of the events of the last couple weeks. For someone who can't make a commitment to our marriage she sure seems to be thinking of stuff about "us" out at least a number of years. Stuff for the house, visiting friends "sometime" we're in Florida, planning a Christmas open house, talking about wanting to do stuff together. The list just keeps on going.

So I'm going to continue what I'm doing. Being the confident person that KNOWS we're going to make it as long as I continue with the changes I've made and give her enough time to process this crap. And if the new job comes around, then she'll get the push she needs to really decide and then I'm a winner either way.