Personally, I cannot relate to his belief that love is fireworks and excitement. That doesn't last in the longterm. That's like saying your comfortable pair of shoes should also stay looking like new. And if they don't, then they are no good.


Sara,

That made me laugh. H's comfortable old shoes turn into "work shoes" and he buys new ones. He went to the western wear store 2 months ago and bought TWO pairs of $150 boots b/c he liked them both and couldn't decide..........what does that say???? ;\) I guess I am the comfy work boots, but I won't let him keep a new pair on hand as well... ;\)

I asked H when he got back from doing chores what he thought the next step should be. He wants us to stay together and keep "working" on our marriage. I don't know what that looks like, I don't want it to be "more of the same" behaviors.

Thanks for caring and following along, guys. I read something Ali posted to Kalni about how she was sort of going through the motions of fixing things w/her guy and after 6 months the light came on and she saw him for the great guy he was, finally. I don't know, part of me wants to give H that chance and part of me isn't sure...........

Me-35

Together: 18 yrs
M-12.5 yrs
S-8
D-4
D'd: Feb. 2010

The LORD your God is with you,
he is mighty to save. --Zeph. 3:17