Mixed Signals or Just My Imagination ?

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So, wife did notice and made comments on my clothing more than once.

But the neatest thing is that I felt very confident and attractive and that made me more outgoing and not the least bit self-pitying.

If anything, my whole positive, relaxed demeanor was in such contrast to her miserable state that I'm sure it made quite an impression.

It was clear we had not come together to this event (she drove up the night b4 to comfort a cousin whose H had left her; how ironic) because she did not make any attempt to look nice at all.

By awkward circumstance I ended up driving W and child back home 1 1/2 hrs. away. That wasn't my first choice but its a long story.

Ended up having a bit of a 'future' talk, but during the talk, she showed her aggravation and frustration much more than I would have liked. I didn't bite, but remained calm.

Truth is, if it weren't for our child, I'd gladly send her packing......her coping mechanisms and attitude, and the general cloud of unhappiness that she floats in is not a cakewalk.

But I will say that I felt fairly detached from all of the negative aspects and did not get drawn into her world of woe.

I validated and listened as well as I was able.

All in all, an intersting day.