My H and I are living in the same house still, sleeping in the same bed, but neither of us has expressed any interest in sex with the other since the bomb, a year ago (when H met OW in person, after months of internet/phone sex). I am terrified of what he might pass on to me if we do reconcile (even if his OW really was a virgin when they met, as claimed, which seems a bit unlikely). He has never admitted to a PA, but I have seen proof, although I haven't confronted him. I got tested a few months ago for everything STD-wise because I realized he could have been lying about his first A (in 2001) being an EA only. Fortunately I tested negative for everything.
Anyway, didn't mean to hijack, just wanted to say I'm sorry you are going through this, and hope everything clears up quickly and successfully, and that your X suffers a lot! I know, that's really mean, but I'm still having a hard time with the whole forgiveness thing! I was also wondering why you chose not to be tested for HIV. That was definitely something I wanted to know if I had!
And I wanted to wave, since you are the first person I've seen on here who admits to being in my area!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
I was also wondering why you chose not to be tested for HIV. That was definitely something I wanted to know if I had!
