My cop buddy had to chase my rebound chick out of my life.
Not kidding here. As previously noted, I spun out on booze and coke while going through my D. Ended up getting roped in by this girl who used the crap out of me. Could see I was hurting and played up to it so I would keep funding the party.
Had to get her removed from my house eventually when I tried to get clean/sober. Thankfully it worked.
Man, I was a sucker in those days for tender (seemingly) understanding words and touch.
Looking back, I was emotional road-kill for quite a while after D. Even when I started my current R.
Glad to say done a ton of work and continue doing so. Life does get better. But we gotta do the work. Frankly, in my experience, rebound situations are an inevitablity for most of us. I think we almost have to have one to get it out of our system before we can love again.
In my book, it is ok to rebound. Just dont marry the person or have kids or anything that would permanently link you to them. Try not to break their heart either. A mature person will recognize that they are your rebound person and just keep it light.
