Imageer, It sounds like you are doing the right thing. I don't know if she is cycling or not--I haven't seen any of that in my H either. I think your best bet is just to let it slide off of you as much as possible and continue as you have been. I admire the strength you have shown!
I'm sorry, you've probably said something about this before, but have any papers been filed in your sitch? Just wondering.
Blessings and peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1