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I went out and bought some really nice paper stock with matching envelopes to write this on. I plan on handing her this letter on Tues when she has visitation.

(Name),
I write you this letter while the events of tonight are still fresh in my mind. I write it in my own hand to provide myself closure and you with a keepsake...a token to reflect on in the future when you emerge from this fog that currently envelops you.

You had a man in me who would have turned heaven and earth upside down for you. A man who spent his working life making sure that you and our beautiful son would live the lifestyle that you deserved and would want for nothing. Given my lot in life, I think it fair to say I over-achieved. I was a man who loved you when you were heavy, when you were thin, when you were grey-haired, and when you snored in your sleep. My love for you was unconditional. You were flawless in my eyes.

I know now that you were hurting for some time. You had needs and desires that you could not verbalize and that I was unable to discern. I was blind to your pain. I have no excuse for any of this and I accept my part in the decline of our relationship. I know that one day I will be able to come to terms with that, but that day is not today.

As for your part, you chose the way of the coward. Rather than treat me with the dignity and respect that I deserved, you lied to me. For months. While your faithful partner of sixteen years stayed home and watched our beautiful child, you sneaked around with a co-worker. Rather than come to me with your grievances like the forthright and honest person I had always understood you to be, you instead chose to selfishly engage in an exit-affair with a man of such low moral character that he would knowingly inject himself into the family of a married couple and their young son. You could not summon the courage come to me until you had someone else lined up. You both deserve each other.

Tonight you have done me a great favor and I thank you for it. You have freed me from you.

I watched you actually take a phone call from your boyfriend, in the home that we built together with eleven years of hard work, not 10 feet from where your loving son and husband sat waiting to cook you dinner and I realized that you are truly lost. The disrespect you showed for our home, our son, our family, and me at that moment made me finally realize that who you are now is no longer worthy of my love or my respect. You are not the woman who dared me to love her so many years ago. You are a stranger.

I still want the woman I married in my life, but tonight I realized that I don't need her in my life to be happy either.

If you ever find her again, I would like very much like to hear from her. She is special.

Until then, I ask that you refrain from contacting me except in the following cases:

- Issues pertaining to our son.
- Issues pertaining to our divorce.
- Issue pertaining to the sale of our home.

In all cases I prefer email to telephone unless it is an emergency.